Being told it was menopause for three years

Started 26 May 2025 · 17 replies · 167 hearts · read 2.5k times

FenellaCirencester, UK · 26 May 2025

about a year ago

Something I have been sitting with: Being told it was menopause for three years Not looking for advice so much as other people's experience.

I have had this diagnosis for a long time and none of the general advice quite fits me.

The thing that has surprised me most is how much of this is about other people rather than about me.

I am aware some of this may be nothing. I would still like to know whether other people have had it, because I have spent a fortnight assuming I am the only one.

My prescriber has been fine, genuinely. The problem is that I get nine minutes twice a year and there is no version of nine minutes that covers this.

Not looking for a plan. Just company and whatever anyone has found.

GwynforLlanidloes, UK

Mine lasted about seven weeks and then lifted over a few days. I cannot tell you why. I can tell you it lifted.

CoralieMarseille, FR

Yes. All of this. I had the same in my third month and I remember thinking there was something specifically wrong with me, which there was not.

AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK

Before anyone offers a remedy: what has been described here is on the list of things that need a clinician today rather than a thread. I am going to be firm about that, kindly.

BettinaGraz, AT

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

HollyBath, UK

Reading the reply above, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

I asked my nurse the same question and she said something I have repeated ever since: that the aim is to keep you on treatment, not to get you up the schedule.

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AbramAmsterdam, NL

Please do not read the comments under news articles about this. I lost a fortnight to that.

Birdie BWhitstable, UK

I have been in this circle a year and this question comes round every few months. It is not a silly question. It is the question.

HannahSheffield, UK

Similar here, and mine turned out to be a completely unrelated deficiency picked up on bloods.

MarnieAyr, UK

I am the person who had the frightening version of this. I went in, it was investigated, and it was not what anyone feared. Going in is the whole of my advice.

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NyreeChristchurch, NZ

#10

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

Coming back to this a fortnight later to say it settled. Leaving the update because I hate reading threads that stop.

LeniLeipzig, DE

#11

Can I gently push back on one thing? Not the substance, just the framing — you have written twice that you should be coping better. Who told you that?

LlianCarmarthen, UK

#12

My pharmacist was more use than anyone. Ten minutes at the counter, no appointment, no charge.

WellsChester, UK

#13

I am about four months behind you and I have been dreading exactly this, so thank you for writing it down before I got there.

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HalCambridge, UK

#14

Building on what the reply above wrote rather than answering the original question.

Yes to the burping. It is real, it is unbeautiful, and it does settle.

FenellaCirencester, UK

#15

Different experience here, for balance. Mine did not improve and in the end I stopped, and that was the right call for me. Both outcomes exist.

AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK

#16

Reading the reply above, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

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CoralieMarseille, FR

#17

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

No advice, just recognition. That sounds exhausting and I am sorry you are in it.