Wine with dinner when dinner is very small

I have been in this circle a year and this question comes round every few months. It is not a silly question. It is the question.

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

Yes. All of this. I had the same in my third month and I remember thinking there was something specifically wrong with me, which there was not.

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

the reply above — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

Reading the reply above, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

The phrase that unlocked my appointment was asking what specifically she wanted me to watch for. It moved us from reassurance to a plan in about thirty seconds.

Different experience here, for balance. Mine did not improve and in the end I stopped, and that was the right call for me. Both outcomes exist.

Building on what the reply above wrote rather than answering the original question.

I keep a two-line diary and it is the only reason I could answer this question about myself. Worth starting even now.

No advice, just recognition. That sounds exhausting and I am sorry you are in it.

Can I gently push back on one thing? Not the substance, just the framing — you have written twice that you should be coping better. Who told you that?

I am about four months behind you and I have been dreading exactly this, so thank you for writing it down before I got there.