My menopause specialist's honest answer about the overlap

Started 24 February 2025 · 14 replies · 149 hearts · read 2.6k times

MarnieAyr, UK · 24 February 2025

1.4 years ago

My menopause specialist's honest answer about the overlap — putting it in its own thread so it does not get lost in the check-in.

I have had this diagnosis for a long time and none of the general advice quite fits me.

The thing that has surprised me most is how much of this is about other people rather than about me.

I have read the guides here, which were more useful than anything else I have found, and I still have a question they do not cover.

What I keep tripping on is not the physical bit. It is the not knowing whether what I am experiencing is normal, and having nobody to ask who is not either selling something or frightened for me.

Sorry for the length. If anyone has been here, I would very much like to hear it.

AbramAmsterdam, NL

I keep a two-line diary and it is the only reason I could answer this question about myself. Worth starting even now.

LlianCarmarthen, UK

No advice, just recognition. That sounds exhausting and I am sorry you are in it.

9me too 8

HalCambridge, UK

My pharmacist was more use than anyone. Ten minutes at the counter, no appointment, no charge.

AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK

Gently: you have apologised three times in a post where you have done nothing that requires an apology.

BirdieMargate, UK

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

HannahSheffield, UK

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

GwynforLlanidloes, UK

Building on what the reply above wrote rather than answering the original question.

The phrase that unlocked my appointment was asking what specifically she wanted me to watch for. It moved us from reassurance to a plan in about thirty seconds.

7me too 4

BettinaGraz, AT

Different experience here, for balance. Mine did not improve and in the end I stopped, and that was the right call for me. Both outcomes exist.

FenellaCirencester, UK

The thing that changed it for me was going slower, agreed with my prescriber. I am not suggesting you do that. I am saying the conversation exists.

WellsChester, UK

#10

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

Have you got anyone who can be with you when you do it? It made an enormous difference to me and I felt silly asking.

HollyBath, UK

#11

Can I gently push back on one thing? Not the substance, just the framing — you have written twice that you should be coping better. Who told you that?

CoralieMarseille, FR

#12

What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

I am about four months behind you and I have been dreading exactly this, so thank you for writing it down before I got there.

AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK

#13

the reply above — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

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22me too 5

NyreeChristchurch, NZ

#14

Yes to the burping. It is real, it is unbeautiful, and it does settle.