Something I have been sitting with: Nobody in either clinic wanted to own the question Not looking for advice so much as other people's experience.
Bringing this here rather than to the general circle because the specifics change the answer.
The thing that has surprised me most is how much of this is about other people rather than about me.
I have written down what has actually happened, in order, because I find that more useful than my summary of it.
I have read the guides here, which were more useful than anything else I have found, and I still have a question they do not cover.
Not looking for a plan. Just company and whatever anyone has found.
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