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My wife started six months after me and it changed our house

Started 29 April 2026 · 12 replies · 74 hearts · read 1.4k times

ObiLagos, NG · 29 April 2026
3 months ago

My wife started six months after me and it changed our house — putting it in its own thread so it does not get lost in the check-in.

Practical question, and possibly a silly one.

I am aware some of this may be nothing. I would still like to know whether other people have had it, because I have spent a fortnight assuming I am the only one.

My prescriber has been fine, genuinely. The problem is that I get nine minutes twice a year and there is no version of nine minutes that covers this.

Not looking for a plan. Just company and whatever anyone has found.

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RuaridhFort William, UK
#1

Coming back to this a fortnight later to say it settled. Leaving the update because I hate reading threads that stop.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#2

I will leave this open for a few more days and then add it to the circle's resources, because the answers here are better than anything I would have written.

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TeganNewport, UK
#3

My experience was very boring, which I offer as data. Some of us just get a dull time of it.

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MapleToronto, CA
#4

What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

What helped was lowering my own expectations of the week rather than trying to hold the week together.

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RufusGuildford, UK
#5

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

Have you got anyone who can be with you when you do it? It made an enormous difference to me and I felt silly asking.

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CormacWaterford, IE
#6

The thing that changed it for me was going slower, agreed with my prescriber. I am not suggesting you do that. I am saying the conversation exists.

3me too 4

OzrenZagreb, HR
#7

I did exactly the same and felt terrible about it. You have not done anything wrong.

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BessLouth, UK
#8

Practical, boring answer: write the three questions down before you go in. I have never once remembered them otherwise.

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NolwennRennes, FR
#9

I am about four months behind you and I have been dreading exactly this, so thank you for writing it down before I got there.

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OssieWolverhampton, UK
#10

What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

Yes to the burping. It is real, it is unbeautiful, and it does settle.

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ObiLagos, NG
#12

Can I gently push back on one thing? Not the substance, just the framing — you have written twice that you should be coping better. Who told you that?

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