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The funeral food, and everyone watching

Started 21 January 2026 · 9 replies · 72 hearts · read 949 times

NerysRhyl, UK · 21 January 2026
6 months ago

A question rather than an update: The funeral food, and everyone watching

Not asking anyone to fix this. Mostly saying it out loud somewhere it will be read kindly.

I am aware some of this may be nothing. I would still like to know whether other people have had it, because I have spent a fortnight assuming I am the only one.

I have written down what has actually happened, in order, because I find that more useful than my summary of it.

I will report back either way, because I have been helped by other people's follow-ups more than by their questions.

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NúriaBarcelona, ES
#1

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

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OsgarKillarney, IE
#2

Reading the opening post, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#3

the reply above — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

Two things, both boring. First, none of us can tell you what to take. Second, the conversation you want to have is with your prescriber, and we can help you write it down.

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TiborBratislava, SK
#4

The phrase that unlocked my appointment was asking what specifically she wanted me to watch for. It moved us from reassurance to a plan in about thirty seconds.

8me too 8

BibiRabat, MA
#5

Similar here, and mine turned out to be a completely unrelated deficiency picked up on bloods.

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NoraDublin, IE
#6

I have been in this circle a year and this question comes round every few months. It is not a silly question. It is the question.

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MaudGhent, BE
#7

Yes. All of this. I had the same in my third month and I remember thinking there was something specifically wrong with me, which there was not.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#8

Reading the reply above, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

Noticing out loud that this conversation has drifted into comparison. That happens without anyone intending it and it does not help anyone. Let us come back to the person who asked.

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NúriaBarcelona, ES
#9

I am about four months behind you and I have been dreading exactly this, so thank you for writing it down before I got there.

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