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Grief and reduced appetite together — how I built a floor

Started 2 September 2025 · 18 replies · 159 hearts · read 3k times

TiborBratislava, SK · 2 September 2025
11 months ago

Grief and reduced appetite together — how I built a floor Writing it down partly to work out what I actually think.

This is a difficult one to write and I have deleted it twice.

What I keep tripping on is not the physical bit. It is the not knowing whether what I am experiencing is normal, and having nobody to ask who is not either selling something or frightened for me.

I have written down what has actually happened, in order, because I find that more useful than my summary of it.

My prescriber has been fine, genuinely. The problem is that I get nine minutes twice a year and there is no version of nine minutes that covers this.

I will report back either way, because I have been helped by other people's follow-ups more than by their questions.

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MaudGhent, BE
#1

The thing that changed it for me was going slower, agreed with my prescriber. I am not suggesting you do that. I am saying the conversation exists.

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NoraDublin, IE
#2

Have you got anyone who can be with you when you do it? It made an enormous difference to me and I felt silly asking.

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BronwenBarry, UK
#3

Practical, boring answer: write the three questions down before you go in. I have never once remembered them otherwise.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#4

Thank you for writing this. I am not going to add information to it. I am going to say that what you have described is very common and very rarely said out loud.

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BibiRabat, MA
#5

I am the person who had the frightening version of this. I went in, it was investigated, and it was not what anyone feared. Going in is the whole of my advice.

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NúriaBarcelona, ES
#6

Coming back to this a fortnight later to say it settled. Leaving the update because I hate reading threads that stop.

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OsgarKillarney, IE
#7

What helped was lowering my own expectations of the week rather than trying to hold the week together.

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TiborBratislava, SK
#8

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

My experience was very boring, which I offer as data. Some of us just get a dull time of it.

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MaudGhent, BE
#9

I keep a two-line diary and it is the only reason I could answer this question about myself. Worth starting even now.

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NoraDublin, IE
#10

No advice, just recognition. That sounds exhausting and I am sorry you are in it.

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BronwenBarry, UK
#11

Yes. All of this. I had the same in my third month and I remember thinking there was something specifically wrong with me, which there was not.

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NerysRhyl, UK
#12

Mine lasted about seven weeks and then lifted over a few days. I cannot tell you why. I can tell you it lifted.

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BibiRabat, MA
#13

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

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NúriaBarcelona, ES
#14

What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

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OsgarKillarney, IE
#15

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

Different experience here, for balance. Mine did not improve and in the end I stopped, and that was the right call for me. Both outcomes exist.

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TiborBratislava, SK
#16

The phrase that unlocked my appointment was asking what specifically she wanted me to watch for. It moved us from reassurance to a plan in about thirty seconds.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#17

Gently: you have apologised three times in a post where you have done nothing that requires an apology.

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NoraDublin, IE
#18

Can I gently push back on one thing? Not the substance, just the framing — you have written twice that you should be coping better. Who told you that?

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