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Two years of Wednesdays

Started 24 June 2026 · 8 replies · 310 hearts · read 3.4k times

OttilieCheshire, UK · 24 June 2026
4 weeks ago

Cheshire. Two years this week and I have been trying to work out what to say about it that is not a speech.

The truthful summary is that this has become a fact about my Wednesdays and nothing more. I would put it somewhere between paying the water bill and putting the bins out in terms of the space it occupies in my head. That is an astonishing sentence to be able to write, given that in the summer of 2024 it occupied roughly all of the space.

Things that turned out to matter more than I expected. Having one person who knows — mine is my sister, who asks once a month and would notice if I stopped answering. Having a repair plan for the weeks that go wrong, because there have been about six of those, mostly travel or illness or one memorable fortnight where I simply forgot and then panicked. And the reviews, which I very nearly let slide last autumn on the grounds that nothing was wrong.

Things that turned out to matter less than I expected. Almost everything I worried about in month two. Whether people could tell. Whether I was doing it in the optimal way. What the exact day of the week was.

The one thing I did not expect at all: I am slightly bored of the subject. I still come here, because people arriving in month two need somebody who is bored of it to tell them boredom exists. But I no longer read anything about it. I am not researching. Two years ago I had eleven tabs open.

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AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK
#1

Ottilie, congratulations on being bored. I mean it entirely sincerely — it is one of the outcomes I most want for people and one of the hardest to describe as a good thing.

The eleven tabs are worth marking too. The intense research phase is protective early on and exhausting if it never ends, and the people who stay in it for two years are often not better informed, just more anxious. Yours ended. That is worth as much as anything else in your post.

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MapleToronto, CA
#2

Journalling since day one, Toronto. I went back and read my own month-two entries in January and I did not recognise the person. Not because of anything physical. Because of the sheer volume of worry per day.

Eleven tabs is generous. I had a folder.

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RomyVienna, AT
#3

The repair plan is the bit I would put in bold. Six wrong weeks in two years is a very normal number and the difference between a wrong week and a spiral is entirely whether you decided in advance what you would do.

Mine is three lines on a card in the kitchen drawer. Written on a calm Sunday, for use on a bad Thursday.

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SalmaManchester, UK
#4

Steady is my whole personality now. Nearly two years as well and I would add one thing to your list of things that mattered: knowing what my ordinary is. Not a target, just a normal range for how I feel, sleep and move, so that when something drifts out of it I notice within a fortnight instead of within a season.

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BenediktFacilitatorVienna, Austria
#5

The line about nearly letting the reviews slide because nothing was wrong is the one I would like people to take from this thread.

It is the most common quiet risk in maintenance and it is entirely understandable. Nothing hurts, life is busy, the appointment is at an awkward time on a Tuesday. Then two years pass with no bloods. Nothing being wrong is a thing worth checking rather than assuming, and that is not fear-mongering, it is just the maintenance version of servicing a car that is running fine.

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MattNottingham, UK
#6

Somewhere between the bins and the water bill. Yes. That is exactly the correct register and I have been trying to find the words for it since last spring without managing it.

Two years next February for me and I intend to mark it by doing absolutely nothing about it whatsoever. No post, no reflection, no going back through the diary. Wednesday, kettle, calendar, milk.

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FreyaReykjavík, IS
#7

Month fourteen and still asking obvious questions, and I want to say that a post from someone who is bored of it is more use to me right now than almost anything else on this site.

Everything I read in my first month was written at a pitch. This is written at the pitch of a Wednesday.

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OttilieCheshire, UK
#8

Repair plan on a card written on a calm Sunday. Romy, I am stealing that outright — mine has always been in my head, which is exactly where it is least available when I need it.

And the reviews are booked. September. Nothing is wrong and I am going anyway.

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