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How I asked my partner to stop commenting

Started 15 December 2024 · 21 replies · 237 hearts · read 3.2k times

NikitaYerevan, AM · 15 December 2024
1.6 years ago

How I asked my partner to stop commenting Writing it down partly to work out what I actually think.

The logistics of this are defeating me more than the medicine is.

I am aware some of this may be nothing. I would still like to know whether other people have had it, because I have spent a fortnight assuming I am the only one.

Here is where I am. The medication side has been more or less as described, and the part nobody prepared me for is everything around it: what to say to people, how to plan a week, and how to tell the difference between a thing to endure and a thing to raise.

Sorry for the length. If anyone has been here, I would very much like to hear it.

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ObiLagos, NG
#1

Different experience here, for balance. Mine did not improve and in the end I stopped, and that was the right call for me. Both outcomes exist.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#2

I will leave this open for a few more days and then add it to the circle's resources, because the answers here are better than anything I would have written.

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OssieWolverhampton, UK
#3

No advice, just recognition. That sounds exhausting and I am sorry you are in it.

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OzrenZagreb, HR
#4

I keep a two-line diary and it is the only reason I could answer this question about myself. Worth starting even now.

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MapleToronto, CA
#5

Yes. All of this. I had the same in my third month and I remember thinking there was something specifically wrong with me, which there was not.

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RuaridhFort William, UK
#6

What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

Mine lasted about seven weeks and then lifted over a few days. I cannot tell you why. I can tell you it lifted.

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RufusGuildford, UK
#7

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

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TeganNewport, UK
#8

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

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BessLouth, UK
#9

Please do not read the comments under news articles about this. I lost a fortnight to that.

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NolwennRennes, FR
#10

I asked my nurse the same question and she said something I have repeated ever since: that the aim is to keep you on treatment, not to get you up the schedule.

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CormacWaterford, IE
#11

Yes to the burping. It is real, it is unbeautiful, and it does settle.

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NikitaYerevan, AM
#12

I am about four months behind you and I have been dreading exactly this, so thank you for writing it down before I got there.

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ObiLagos, NG
#13

Reading the reply above, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

My pharmacist was more use than anyone. Ten minutes at the counter, no appointment, no charge.

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OmarAmman, JO
#14

Can I gently push back on one thing? Not the substance, just the framing — you have written twice that you should be coping better. Who told you that?

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OssieWolverhampton, UK
#15

It got worse before it got better for me, which I wish someone had said. About ten days of worse.

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OzrenZagreb, HR
#16

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

For what it is worth, the trial data on this is thinner than the confidence of the internet would suggest. Worth knowing when you read the posts.

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MapleToronto, CA
#17

The phrase that unlocked my appointment was asking what specifically she wanted me to watch for. It moved us from reassurance to a plan in about thirty seconds.

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RuaridhFort William, UK
#18

Have you got anyone who can be with you when you do it? It made an enormous difference to me and I felt silly asking.

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RufusGuildford, UK
#19

What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

I am the person who had the frightening version of this. I went in, it was investigated, and it was not what anyone feared. Going in is the whole of my advice.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#20

Two things, both boring. First, none of us can tell you what to take. Second, the conversation you want to have is with your prescriber, and we can help you write it down.

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BessLouth, UK
#21

The thing that changed it for me was going slower, agreed with my prescriber. I am not suggesting you do that. I am saying the conversation exists.

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