Telling my partner what this actually costs

Started 7 October 2024 · 20 replies · 241 hearts · read 4.1k times

GavinDundee, UK · 7 October 2024

1.8 years ago

Starting a thread on this because it keeps coming up in ones and twos: Telling my partner what this actually costs

Money post. No apologies, this circle is for it.

The thing that has surprised me most is how much of this is about other people rather than about me.

What I keep tripping on is not the physical bit. It is the not knowing whether what I am experiencing is normal, and having nobody to ask who is not either selling something or frightened for me.

Sorry for the length. If anyone has been here, I would very much like to hear it.

SaffHastings, UK

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

KateBelfast, NI

the opening post — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

PetraFacilitatorMelbourne, Australia

Reading the opening post, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

Before anyone offers a remedy: what has been described here is on the list of things that need a clinician today rather than a thread. I am going to be firm about that, kindly.

26me too 2

LlianCarmarthen, UK

Different experience here, for balance. Mine did not improve and in the end I stopped, and that was the right call for me. Both outcomes exist.

HettieLancaster, UK

I have been in this circle a year and this question comes round every few months. It is not a silly question. It is the question.

ZoëHackney, UK

Similar here, and mine turned out to be a completely unrelated deficiency picked up on bloods.

PeronelCanterbury, UK

Mine lasted about seven weeks and then lifted over a few days. I cannot tell you why. I can tell you it lifted.

NadirCasablanca, MA

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

Yes. All of this. I had the same in my third month and I remember thinking there was something specifically wrong with me, which there was not.

11me too 7

GwennoPwllheli, UK

Yes to the burping. It is real, it is unbeautiful, and it does settle.

11me too 8

OttoPrague, CZ

#10

I am about four months behind you and I have been dreading exactly this, so thank you for writing it down before I got there.

IlyaAlmaty, KZ

#11

Have you got anyone who can be with you when you do it? It made an enormous difference to me and I felt silly asking.

11me too 2

GavinDundee, UK

#12

The thing that changed it for me was going slower, agreed with my prescriber. I am not suggesting you do that. I am saying the conversation exists.

SaffHastings, UK

#13

I did exactly the same and felt terrible about it. You have not done anything wrong.

KateBelfast, NI

#14

Reading the reply above, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

Practical, boring answer: write the three questions down before you go in. I have never once remembered them otherwise.

MoBradford, UK

#15

It got worse before it got better for me, which I wish someone had said. About ten days of worse.

LlianCarmarthen, UK

#16

What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

For what it is worth, the trial data on this is thinner than the confidence of the internet would suggest. Worth knowing when you read the posts.

HettieLancaster, UK

#17

the reply above — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

Coming back to this a fortnight later to say it settled. Leaving the update because I hate reading threads that stop.

ZoëHackney, UK

#18

I am the person who had the frightening version of this. I went in, it was investigated, and it was not what anyone feared. Going in is the whole of my advice.

PetraFacilitatorMelbourne, Australia

#19

I want to slow this down a little. There are four different answers flying about and they are all somebody's real experience, which makes them true and not necessarily relevant to the person who asked.

NadirCasablanca, MA

#20

Reading the reply above, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

I keep a two-line diary and it is the only reason I could answer this question about myself. Worth starting even now.