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The safety plan I built before starting

Started 20 July 2024 · 17 replies · 203 hearts · read 2.9k times

OllieCardiff, UK · 20 July 2024
2 years ago

Starting a thread on this because it keeps coming up in ones and twos: The safety plan I built before starting

Not asking anyone to fix this. Mostly saying it out loud somewhere it will be read kindly.

I have read the guides here, which were more useful than anything else I have found, and I still have a question they do not cover.

The thing that has surprised me most is how much of this is about other people rather than about me.

My prescriber has been fine, genuinely. The problem is that I get nine minutes twice a year and there is no version of nine minutes that covers this.

I will report back either way, because I have been helped by other people's follow-ups more than by their questions.

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RenataKraków, PL
#1

What helped was lowering my own expectations of the week rather than trying to hold the week together.

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GwionBangor, UK
#2

Gently disagreeing with the opening post, or rather adding the other half of it.

My experience was very boring, which I offer as data. Some of us just get a dull time of it.

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JonahFacilitatorCork, Ireland
#3

Noticing out loud that this conversation has drifted into comparison. That happens without anyone intending it and it does not help anyone. Let us come back to the person who asked.

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BramwellNottingham, UK
#4

Coming back to this a fortnight later to say it settled. Leaving the update because I hate reading threads that stop.

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BroganCumbernauld, UK
#5

What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

Practical, boring answer: write the three questions down before you go in. I have never once remembered them otherwise.

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SableCape Town, ZA
#6

I did exactly the same and felt terrible about it. You have not done anything wrong.

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RunaAarhus, DK
#7

The thing that changed it for me was going slower, agreed with my prescriber. I am not suggesting you do that. I am saying the conversation exists.

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NanNeath, UK
#8

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

Have you got anyone who can be with you when you do it? It made an enormous difference to me and I felt silly asking.

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SadieSalford, UK
#9

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

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QuinGuildford, UK
#10

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

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OsricSalisbury, UK
#11

Different experience here, for balance. Mine did not improve and in the end I stopped, and that was the right call for me. Both outcomes exist.

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PádraigGalway, IE
#12

The phrase that unlocked my appointment was asking what specifically she wanted me to watch for. It moved us from reassurance to a plan in about thirty seconds.

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OrlaithDonegal, IE
#13

the reply above — yes, and the bit that took me longest to accept was the next part.

No advice, just recognition. That sounds exhausting and I am sorry you are in it.

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OllieCardiff, UK
#14

I keep a two-line diary and it is the only reason I could answer this question about myself. Worth starting even now.

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RenataKraków, PL
#15

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

Can I gently push back on one thing? Not the substance, just the framing — you have written twice that you should be coping better. Who told you that?

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JonahFacilitatorCork, Ireland
#16

Before anyone offers a remedy: what has been described here is on the list of things that need a clinician today rather than a thread. I am going to be firm about that, kindly.

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GrizelKirkcaldy, UK
#17

My pharmacist was more use than anyone. Ten minutes at the counter, no appointment, no charge.

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