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Anniversaries and what they do to my week

Started 23 January 2025 · 18 replies · 213 hearts · read 4k times

NoraDublin, IE · 23 January 2025
1.5 years ago

Something I have been sitting with: Anniversaries and what they do to my week Not looking for advice so much as other people's experience.

Not asking anyone to fix this. Mostly saying it out loud somewhere it will be read kindly.

Here is where I am. The medication side has been more or less as described, and the part nobody prepared me for is everything around it: what to say to people, how to plan a week, and how to tell the difference between a thing to endure and a thing to raise.

I have written down what has actually happened, in order, because I find that more useful than my summary of it.

Anyway. Thank you for reading this far. Any experience gratefully received, and I promise to come back and say what happened.

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NúriaBarcelona, ES
#1

I am about four months behind you and I have been dreading exactly this, so thank you for writing it down before I got there.

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TiborBratislava, SK
#2

Yes to the burping. It is real, it is unbeautiful, and it does settle.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#3

I want to slow this down a little. There are four different answers flying about and they are all somebody's real experience, which makes them true and not necessarily relevant to the person who asked.

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BronwenBarry, UK
#4

What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

For what it is worth, the trial data on this is thinner than the confidence of the internet would suggest. Worth knowing when you read the posts.

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NerysRhyl, UK
#5

Have you got anyone who can be with you when you do it? It made an enormous difference to me and I felt silly asking.

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BibiRabat, MA
#6

What the reply above described happened to me too, in a slightly different order.

The thing that changed it for me was going slower, agreed with my prescriber. I am not suggesting you do that. I am saying the conversation exists.

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MaudGhent, BE
#7

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

I did exactly the same and felt terrible about it. You have not done anything wrong.

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NoraDublin, IE
#8

Practical, boring answer: write the three questions down before you go in. I have never once remembered them otherwise.

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NúriaBarcelona, ES
#9

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

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TiborBratislava, SK
#10

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

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OsgarKillarney, IE
#11

Mine lasted about seven weeks and then lifted over a few days. I cannot tell you why. I can tell you it lifted.

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BronwenBarry, UK
#12

Yes. All of this. I had the same in my third month and I remember thinking there was something specifically wrong with me, which there was not.

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NerysRhyl, UK
#13

Building on what the reply above wrote rather than answering the original question.

I have been in this circle a year and this question comes round every few months. It is not a silly question. It is the question.

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BibiRabat, MA
#14

Similar here, and mine turned out to be a completely unrelated deficiency picked up on bloods.

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MaudGhent, BE
#15

Reading the reply above, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

The phrase that unlocked my appointment was asking what specifically she wanted me to watch for. It moved us from reassurance to a plan in about thirty seconds.

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NoraDublin, IE
#16

Different experience here, for balance. Mine did not improve and in the end I stopped, and that was the right call for me. Both outcomes exist.

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WrenFacilitatorLeeds, UK
#17

I will leave this open for a few more days and then add it to the circle's resources, because the answers here are better than anything I would have written.

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TiborBratislava, SK
#18

the reply above said something I want to sit with for a second.

No advice, just recognition. That sounds exhausting and I am sorry you are in it.

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