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A plateau at the same time as a bereavement

Started 6 January 2026 · 16 replies · 123 hearts · read 1.5k times

GrizelKirkcaldy, UK · 6 January 2026
6 months ago

Something I have been sitting with: A plateau at the same time as a bereavement Not looking for advice so much as other people's experience.

I have been reading here for a few weeks and have not posted, so this is me posting.

What I would find most useful is not advice. It is somebody describing what their version of this was, and how long it went on for.

I have read the guides here, which were more useful than anything else I have found, and I still have a question they do not cover.

Sorry for the length. If anyone has been here, I would very much like to hear it.

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PetuaKampala, UG
#1

My experience was very boring, which I offer as data. Some of us just get a dull time of it.

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OttilieCheshire, UK
#2

Reading the opening post, I recognised more of that than I expected to.

What helped was lowering my own expectations of the week rather than trying to hold the week together.

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NissaHaifa, IL
#3

Coming back to this a fortnight later to say it settled. Leaving the update because I hate reading threads that stop.

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AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK
#4

Before anyone offers a remedy: what has been described here is on the list of things that need a clinician today rather than a thread. I am going to be firm about that, kindly.

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PersisBristol, UK
#5

I did exactly the same and felt terrible about it. You have not done anything wrong.

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IlyaAlmaty, KZ
#6

Practical, boring answer: write the three questions down before you go in. I have never once remembered them otherwise.

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BrackAlnwick, UK
#7

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

Have you got anyone who can be with you when you do it? It made an enormous difference to me and I felt silly asking.

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TobinCork, IE
#8

The thing that changed it for me was going slower, agreed with my prescriber. I am not suggesting you do that. I am saying the conversation exists.

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ÖzlemIzmir, TR
#9

Two things that helped me, neither of them clever: small amounts more often, and drinking a lot more than felt necessary.

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AbelAddis Ababa, ET
#10

I would take that to a clinician rather than to us, and I would do it this week. Not because it is definitely serious — because it is the sort of thing that is much easier to rule out than to worry about.

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VeraRiga, LV
#11

I am the person who had the frightening version of this. I went in, it was investigated, and it was not what anyone feared. Going in is the whole of my advice.

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TiborBratislava, SK
#12

Gently disagreeing with the reply above, or rather adding the other half of it.

Please do not read the comments under news articles about this. I lost a fortnight to that.

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TiernanOmagh, NI
#13

Building on what the reply above wrote rather than answering the original question.

I asked my nurse the same question and she said something I have repeated ever since: that the aim is to keep you on treatment, not to get you up the schedule.

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ZoraSarajevo, BA
#14

Similar here, and mine turned out to be a completely unrelated deficiency picked up on bloods.

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AdaFacilitatorManchester, UK
#15

I will leave this open for a few more days and then add it to the circle's resources, because the answers here are better than anything I would have written.

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Obi OEnugu, NG
#16

I am about four months behind you and I have been dreading exactly this, so thank you for writing it down before I got there.

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